What did you learn from your first serious relationship Gents?
I've been reading so much bullshit and aggression and people hating other people, and honestly I'm guessing you have been too. So, I'd like to ask: what made you smile today?
Personally I think it's a load of bollocks. If you have achieved all the goals you wanted in life. Money, cars, status, looks. I'm happy for you. It's not understatement when men achieve what they do through hard work, it's NOT bad to flaunt it.
What really gets me though that it's becoming an expectation. I suppose. I don't date. Not yet anyway. But I think having a term like this. Is just another way to say "Well a real Man would..."
Again I'm not bashing on fellow my Mens achievements. Just bashing on it becoming an expectation.
MY wife and I got back from a cruise a few weeks ago. It was something we saved for a long time but couldn't do due to a plethora a things for years (bought a house, covid, etc). I have no regrets about spending that money because it was a VERY delayed honeymoon.
However when we returned home we had some very unexpected issues with her car and our dog (shes fine!). Kinda put a quick drain on our finances. We are still in the green but im a lot lower than usual, and we are trying to have a baby, plus taking our other dog to a vet in a few days ( min $200 due to shots she needs).
This week my mom proposes to use that we go down to the jersey shore with her, my sisters, aunt and cousin. I use to love going to the shore with them, but after doing the math its going to be at least $800 spent. I just spend about 2k in the past month and REALLY dont want to go, but my wife really wants to and my mom wants us to go as well.
Plus it will LITERALLY drain all of my PTO and i would like to be able to take a sick day if needed....
My wife and I fight a lot over money, she says im cheap (when i pay about 85% of all our expenses, she works but I make considerably more) and she doesnt understand a lot of about money ( came from a family of hoarders and still has that mindset).
How can I be frank, but nice, that we shouldn't go?
Be it in dating, potential partner or a friend. What screams toxicity while it may not be a common knowledge?
We all joke about men being able to “think about nothing” but how often are you in that state? I feel like I’m there most of the time. I don’t think unless I have to.
I'm just interested in how other people of faith pray.
What do you pray for?
Is there anyone you pray for?
Are there common or staple themes?
Could be realistic or unrealistic. Mine would probably be owning a home near the beach where I would host family holiday events and surf with my kids, however old they are. Also a beautiful, loving wife who cooks like my grandmother. Or maybe we could all take the catamaran out for a few hours and enjoy the water.