r/TooAfraidToAsk 17d ago Helpful

Health/Medical Roe v Wade leaked SCOTUS opinion MEGATHREAD

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90% of the frontpage is this discussion, would prefer to have it somewhere central rather than asked in a slightly different way.

This topic is easily one of the most sensitive topics to discuss so please engage politely with each other and report anyone engaging in an uncivil manner, we will deal with it fairly quickly.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3d ago Silver Helpful Faith In Humanity Restored

Meta Ignorance of the rules is not a defense - Telling a user a method to commit suicide will result in a permanent ban.

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Edit: this is not up for debate

Your job before using a Subreddit is to be familiar with the rules to ensure you do not end up having your content removed (mild) to being on the receiving end of a ban (severe).

Given the nature of the offense, this type of infraction is not liable for a warning nor is it liable to the defense of “but I didn’t know!”

This stance has zero to do with personal belief regarding assisted-suicide, which would imply the use of a medical provider operating within evidence-based approaches to help with end-of-life. This stance is in regards to largely uninformed Redditors, of unverifiable credentials, offering “advice” with methodology that is not evidence-based nor generally is it without risk.

Were medically-assisted suicide pan-legal across every single State, it would still not be allowed for users to give methods to others on how to kill themselves.

Your individual beliefs have nothing to do with this discussion, has nothing to do with adhering to rules in order to participate within a sub and further has no bearing on your ability to support medically-assisted suicide, of which a Reddit comment is not, across various discussions.

However, If you tell a user a method to kill themselves, you will be banned and your comment will be escalated for additional review by Reddit admins.

You should know better than to provide someone potentially suicidal with methods to kill themselves, and if you can’t have that inherent moral compass then you should be able to gander at the multiple places our rules are plastered before engaging within this sub.

Thanks to the rest of you with enough common sense that this message will seem ridiculous, keep on keeping on.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 16h ago Helpful Wholesome Silver

Sexuality & Gender Dads of Reddit, why do you act differently to your daughters once they hit puberty?

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Note: I'm Asian (this could probably be a cultural thing, or not, I don't know).

I remember feeling loved by my Dad so much, until I hit puberty. I remember the vivid look of disappointment on my Dad's face the first time my Mum told him I've gotten my first period. To remember it still breaks my heart until today. A lot of my friends experienced having their Dads distancing themselves too from their daughters after they hit puberty.

Dads of Reddit, we miss you. What happened?

Edit: Thank you everyone for sharing their own experiences, insights and suggestion, I really appreciate it a lot! And also thanks for the Dads of Reddit who put such big effort in being with your daughters all through stages of her life.

Maybe just a bit of clarification, my relationship with my Dad had gotten better over the years, especially after I obtained my degree and became a professional. He started to see me equally and even consult all of his problems to me. I know it's a very old-school Parents tradition to not apologize, but his effort in being kinder and gentler to me over the years had proven that he felt remorse and wanted to have close relationship with his daughter once again.

I still don't know when will I have enough courage to ask him why did he shun me away all through my teenage years. Maybe someday. Please wish me luck!


r/TooAfraidToAsk 13h ago Silver Wholesome

Love & Dating Is it OK to want a provider?

650 Upvotes

I want a husband that has no other ambitions beyond being a good provider who earns money for the family to financially support me and our future children together.

I do not think all men should be like this. I just want a man that wants this for his life. I want him to earn money for our bank account so that we can spend it on things for me, the family, and the children, and we can spend time together in the home that the money he earned has paid for. Every time I say this is what I want men get angry that I'm just looking for a piggy bank and a walking wallet. Am I wrong for wanting this?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago Helpful Wholesome

Grief & Loss Can someone truly vanish in today’s connected world?

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I am trying to find out what happened to my husband’s best friend. Several years ago the friend, Wyatt (not his real name) went through an ugly divorce from an equally ugly woman. Shortly after the finalization of the divorce, Wyatt just stopped existing. He stopped answering the phone. Online searches revealed he stopped paying rent on the storage unit he had and the contents were auctioned off. This storage unit held most of his furniture, all of his belongings he kept in the divorce and his cherished motorcycle. All of this went to the highest bidder. I only know this from online searches for his name. Recently, even this information is no longer available online.

None of our mutual friends can reach him. Two of the three phone numbers we had for him are disconnected. The last one appears to have my cell number blocked as it goes right to voicemail without ringing. If I call from a different number, it rings 6 or so times and then goes to voice mail. This is the same for all of us. The outgoing message is a standard greeting about the person you are trying to reach is not available. Our mutual friends can not find him at his last known address. No one has found an obituary or a death notice. It’s like he just disappeared like a fart in the wind.

Theories swirl about what happened to him. How can someone we loved and cherished disappear or cut everyone off that loved him without a trace? Is it possible? How can we get information on his possible demise when none of us are blood family? Are we demised to never know what became of Wyatt?

Edit to add: He was last known to drive a very distinct older car that one friend saw in an apartment parking lot. Unfortunately, no one has been able to determine who owns that particular car to ask questions or identify if it is Wyatt’s new address.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Love & Dating Should I break up with my girlfriend before or after prom?

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Basically, I'm questioning if I really am attracted to my girlfriend or if I just really liked her as a friend and thought she was attractive. I'm thinking I (16F) may just be straight after all (or just not into her), but I am unsure what to do.

I feel like breaking up before prom (which is tomorrow) is wrong in every way; however, I don't think breaking up after will be much better. I know I need to be honest with her and I need time to sort through my feelings. Am I attracted to her romantically? Was I ever?

I just don't want to lead her on, but I also don't want to lose our friendship. In an ideal world, I would have broken up earlier and tried to go as friends, but I kept trying to see if I'd regain attraction or something. I don't know. I'm so lost right now and frustrated with myself.

I think I already know the answer to my own question, but would it be wrong to break up with her tonight and explain my feelings (that I likely mistook platonic love for romantic love)? When should I break up and how should I go about this?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Other Why do boomers hate research and looking up stuff?

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Like, I may be talking with my dad or an uncle, and where there's something we don't know, I look it up and they all go from snarky at best to genuinely angry at worst for me looking up info.

And not only in a "phones bad" kind of discourse, but also if I go for one of their so beloved enciclopedia if it's a scientific fact and not recent news/movies. They also get irrationally angry.

And this is something that I've seen happen the most with boomers, that they discourage research and looking up info. (specially if it's something that disproves their knowledge, but that's more of a pride thing)


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Body Image/Self-Esteem Do you ever weigh yourself before and after taking a dump to know the weight of your poop ?

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Mine was 1.2 kg today, I was impressed.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 15h ago

Culture & Society Why am I perceived a bad person for not liking dogs?

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Why do people instantly think I’m a bad person because I don’t like dogs? For example I’m walking through the park and a dog runs up me, I simply move out the way and avoid it. The owners then proceed to give me a dirty look because I don’t coo and fuss, stroke it or pay it any attention. When I mention that I’m not fond of dogs, people look at me like I’m crazy. I’m sorry but everyone has different likes and dislikes. I got bitten by a dog as a child, I find them dirty, greedy and too attention seeking like a hyperactive child. Don’t get me wrong, I’d help ANY animal out that’s in need but I wouldn’t own a dog and don’t like to touch them or interact with them. Why does this make me a bad person?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago Wholesome

Law & Government Why aren’t assassinations against the rich and powerful more common in today’s age rife with guns and crime?

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Edit for clarity: I am not wishing the death on anyone or condoning violence in any capacity. FBI agents reading this, it was just a question.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago Wholesome Seal of Approval Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome All-Seeing Upvote Take My Energy

Climate & Environment Does anyone feel grossed out by how many humans there are?

17.1k Upvotes

When I think about how there are 8billion people just roaming earth, taking 8billion poops a day, eating 8billion meals, and using so many resources… it just really grosses me out. There’s too many people on this planet.

EDIT: Wow, wasn’t expecting this to blow up. For some clarification: no, I do not want anyone currently living, including myself, to die. I just wish capitalism wasn’t a thing, and that people would stop pushing out so many babies.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Health/Medical What's the meaning of life?

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The only thing that gives me pleasure is gaming. That's my meaning. My entire being was devoted to this, and I like it. Everyone else criticises me for playing video games since it's "bad" but this one hobby truly is the only thing that gives me meaning.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Habits & Lifestyle People who floss every day, is it true that eventually it stops bleeding every time you do it?

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r/TooAfraidToAsk 19m ago

Media What happened to the woman who killed a cyclist in the UK by driving one the wrong side of the road before fleeing back to the US?

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Several years ago an American woman was driving on the wrong side of the road in the UK when she hit and killed a cyclist. As she was part of a military base or something, she cried diplomatic immunity and fled back to the US. I haven't heard anything beyond that she fled. Can anyone tell me what ultimately happened to her? Was justice served?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 22h ago

Mental Health Older people on reddit, will i regret not going to parties/socializing when im older?

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Im currently graduating high school and i haven't been to one party nor have any friends. I really enjoy having this lifestyle but im afraid if it will have impact on my life later on.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Health/Medical Do overweight people have harder time achieving the fit and toned body goal than eternally scrawny underweight people?

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I guess it's difficult to answer this since it would be very rare for one person to experience both and have the right comparison.

I just noticed that there is more focus on overweight people getting into fitness and they are more encouraged and glorified to push for the goal. Fitness advertisements are more marketed to them.

As the opposite of the body type spectrum and have been wanting to be "muscled" and fit for a long time ever since maturity, it is really a struggle and I haven't achieved anything. Having a small frame (thin bones) is very limiting and I struggle to eat a lot. At the risk of offending, I sometimes envy overweight people how they can eat a lot and I often catch myself thinking if I was their weight, it would be easy for me to just cut off eating (I know it's not, I'm just bitter frustrated, sorry).

Is it perhaps, the focus is more on them because they can get it more realistically than us?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 54m ago

Culture & Society Why is it not offensive to impersonate certain accents (Eg. British, Irish, Australian?)

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We know that impersonating an Indian accent or Chinese is definitely wrong for those not from those origins, but why can my non-Irish coworkers impersonate my Irish coworker and think it’s just funny and it’s not offensive? My only guess is that it’s because they are countries that have a sizeable white population?

I asked one colleague and they said “it’s up to the person whether they are offended” and we all know how problematic that statement is.

Does anyone have more insight or knowledge on this? Genuinely would like to know!


r/TooAfraidToAsk 13h ago

Other How the hell did people in the 50s not know that smoking was bad for you?

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I mean it’s literally inhaling burning particulate. The first time you do it you cough out a lung.

They made computer guided missiles that were able to hit a target thousands of miles away that could obliterate entire nation.

They weren’t that stupid.

How the hell did they not know?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Health/Medical how do you convince someone to go see a doctor if they don't think anything is wrong with them?

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So my mom definitely has some problems but doesn't realize it. She's only 60 years old but in the last year I noticed some weird things she does. She puts things in places they don't belong, she gets very stressed/worked up from one second to the other because of nothing, she misplaced her phone and keys 1000 times a day. A while ago she got a glass of water, placed it on the kitchen table, left the room, came back, poured another (wine)glass of water, left again, came back and ended up drinking from the tap?? Sometimes when I tell her something I have to repeat slower because she didn't understand it the first time.

She's VERY frugal with money, she regularly turns off the power in our apartment when she starts talking about how much the bill is (our bill is very low compared to others and we don't have money problems). Our fridge needs to be replaced cause it's 30+ years old but she refuses to buy a new one because she doesn't wanna spend the money (a new fridge would consume less energy and therefore lower the electricity bill but she refuses to see that) She also talks to herself and keeps repeating the same stories who happened five years ago about people who have nothing to do with us anymore. She obsesses over them, she starts calm and ends up screaming 20 minutes later.

The problem is she would never in a million years go to a doctor/psychologist whatever. She doesn't realize that what she's doing is weird. We also have a family history of mental health problems.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Other When I watch things on my phone, I feel like I need to squint to see details better because the screen is so small but it actually takes up the same (or often more) space of my view than the TV screen, is there a technical reason for this? or is it psychological?

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I'm not very techy, so I'm guessing it has something to do with pixels? I'm aware that if it's too close to my face, it's harder to watch aswell so I keep it at a distance where the screen is about the same size as the TV, which is about 12 feet from my sofa, but for some reason, it feels harder to watch... not sure if this is making any sense...

I sometimes watch stuff on my phone with headphones on in the living room, I also watch a lot of stuff on my phone in bed as I'm disabled and not very mobile. Probably didn't need to explain that but we are on reddit.. Thanks in advance, guys.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Family What do I do if my dad just came home with milk that was expired 15 years ago?

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Haven’t seen my dad since I was 5 years old he told me he was leaving to get milk and 15 years later he actually got the milk. Should I tell him to get more milk since it’s expired?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 19m ago

Family Why do so many Mothers not Breast Feed?

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Sorry to ask, but as I have never been in a relationship with someone who had a kid, and never have had a kid myself, I am curious to why the Baby Formula crisis is so much a crisis. Are mothers not able to switch over to breast feeding or storing their milk if they can't be around their child so the child's care taking can feed them with it?

Sorry if this is a stupid question, as a man I have no idea how any of this works.